Connect. Heal. Flourish.
Ellen Miley Perry has spent decades helping families transform their most emotionally charged moments — from boardroom blowups to succession chaos — into lively collaboration.
Known for “pitching a big tent,” Ellen draws upon family systems theory, trauma-informed counseling, adaptive leadership, values-based dialogue, and other modalities to create spirited, inviting containers for connection.
A deeply intuitive facilitator, Ellen expertly meets families where they are, tending to their most complex wounds while coaxing out their capacity for honesty, creativity, and joy.
Learn how you can work with Ellen below.
My work might resonate with you if…
If you’ve ever left a family gathering feeling like you just aged ten years or regressed 20.
If you’ve drafted a clear text to your mother and then deleted it because it “felt like too much”…
If you love your family deeply, but also feel a bit of dread every time your sibling group chat pings…
If you REALLY love your family AND find them complicated.
Let’s stop acting like family is simple. It’s not. It never was.
Family is tricky. It’s layered. It’s full of unspoken rules, ancient roles, and interactions that make zero sense to outsiders but feel like normal to you.
Family is where we first learned how to belong—and how to change ourselves to do it. It’s where loyalty sometimes got tangled up with silence, and where love sometimes felt like control.
It’s the first place most of us learned to read a room—and suppress a truth.
It’s also where our nervous systems got their first workout.
You are more reactive to your parents and your siblings than anyone else on earth. Not necessarily because you love them more—but because they live in the original wiring of your emotional brain. And that wiring? It’s got complexity.
That’s where I come in.
SERVICES
Bring deeper meaning into any business, team, or family gathering with lively, engaging talks by Ellen on the nature of family connection.
Speaking
Get private coaching, strategic advisory, and expert support from Ellen on your family’s pressing challenges.
Consulting
Put your strategies into action with half-day, 1-day, or 2-day workshops designed and facilitated by Ellen.
Workshops
Articles, webinars, and more family resources from Ellen to come. Stay tuned!
Coming Soon
“I don’t have the answers you’re looking for.
You do.
What I have are great questions.”
— Ellen
To book Ellen, contact hello@ellenmperry.com.
LISTEN NOW: Four Profound Questions for Families
In this episode of the Wealth of Wisdom podcast, co-author Keith Whitaker interviews Ellen on on the four profound questions families should ask themselves for a pathway to deep connection, emotional intimacy, and a greater familial well-being. Try the exercise for yourself here.
“To the depths of my being, I believe in pitching a big tent. In creating a place where the people I love can come be themselves, be connected and belong.”
— Ellen
25 Strategies for Families to Flourish
Connect.
Make rituals and keep them.
Choose schools in which your child is “known” and celebrated.
Listen to your children.
Repeat #4.
Develop skills around difficult conversations.
Minimize secrets in your family.
Consider family meetings if you don’t already have them.
Devote yourself to being a great parent.
Stay home and do homework with your kids.
If your kids are older, invest yourself in knowing their dreams.
Let your children teach you something.
Shrink your shadow.
Find many ways to teach your kids about money and investing.
Take Mandatory Family Outings, or Mystery Trips.
Be sure your children have summer jobs.
Embrace all kinds of diversity.
Learn to be vulnerable.
Look first at your role in a difficult relationship.
Define fair versus equal in your family.
Identify the next generation of human capitalists* in your family and encourage them every way you can.
Find ways to capture some joy when your family is together.
Tell stories.
Look for others in the family whom you can lift up.
Find ways to feel grateful.
*In my book, I use human capitalists to describe people who develop their family members with the same energy and intention used to generate financial capital.
